If someone hurts you once, do you think they'll do it again?
"What do you think of this quote, ""Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me""?
bq: On a scale from 1 to 10, how good are you at forgiving people?
Lol I give myself a 3 for this. :O
If a person hurts me very badly, I will forgive them, but I never allow those people back into my life again. I haven't spoke to a few people for many years, they are the ones whom I love the most deeply, yet they are also the ones who hurt me the most deeply.
I have to shut them out of my life to prevent them from hurting me again.
I'm not holding a grudge with them, but I have to protect myself from them."
Do you have any responsibility in this? Where is your ownership of the "hurtful" situation? A person does that which he believes seves his needs in that moment. No one is going out of his way to injure you by doing the best he can to get his needs met.