Mentoring
Egan’s Skilled Helper Model
This is a model used a lot in counselling or coaching situations where the object is to achieve lasting
change and to empower people to manage their own problems more effectively and develop unused
opportunities more fully.1 As much of a personal tutor’s role is to help students help themselves, this
is a particularly useful framework.
The model has three stages which can be summarised as
Exploration - What is going on?
Challenging - What do I want instead?
How might I achieve what I want?
Stage 1: Exploration
The first task is to find out your mentee’s story about what is happening in their own words and then
to reflect it back to them, without judgement. This involves:
attention giving - positive body language, eye contact, etc.
active listening - learning forward, nodding, focusing on what is being said not what you plan to say
in response
acceptance and empathy - it is vital to detach from your judgement about what you are being told.
Keep your views to yourself if want to find out what’s really going on. Nobody opens up in a
situation where they feel judged
paraphrasing and summarising - to check your own understanding of what has been said
focusing - which of the issues discussed seems the most important to the mentee? Reflecting
feelings - help mentees to uncover blind spots or gaps in their perceptions and assessment of the
situation
questioning - useful questions are: How did you feel about that? What were you thinking? What was
that like? What else is there about that?
For some people, this is enough. Reflecting and clarifying makes the way forward obvious. However,
when upset or confronted, it is often difficult to see things clearly and find one’s own way out of the
mire. The skilled helper can assist in identifying the blind spots, motes in eye, misperceptions.
Stage 2: Challenging
This stage involves challenging existing views - one issue at a time. Encourage the mentee to think
about whether there is another way of looking at the issue. Some useful questions to do this are:
what might this look like from another person’s point of view?
what in particular about this is a problem for you?
if you were describing someone else in this situation, how would you describe them?
what does she/he think/feel?
goal setting - this is where you seek to move the mentee forward from being stuck, by identifying an
area in which progress can be made
