INTRODUCTION
How many of you take New Year resolutions? How many of you stick to your New Year
resolutions? It is not very surprising to see lesser number of hands. Research has shown that 90% of
the people give up on their New Year's resolutions, before the end of January and guess what,
majority of the remaining 10% give up before the end of the year. The initial enthusiasm you see in
January vanishes soon like a piece of butter placed on a hot pan.
Today, I'm going to give you some tips to effectively reach your New Year resolutions. Try "to
GET" instead of "to GET RID OF" Many a times New Year Resolutions fail because "People try to
desperately RUN AWAY from their bad behaviors". Instead of RUNNING AWAY from something, focus
on RUNNING TOWARDS something. The only time RUNNING AWAY FROM SOMETHING works is when
you are chased by a hungry dog.
When you try hard to UNLEARN your bad habits, you focus too much on the BAD than focusing
on the GOOD. For example, when delivering a speech, the more you focus on getting rid of
nervousness, the more nervous you become. Instead, you should focus on how you would feel if you
deliver the speech successfully.
Quit Drinking Resolution
One of the prominent New Year resolutions is to QUIT drinking. Zig Ziglar, the powerful
motivational speaker was a "three-pack-a-day" drinker. He had a New Year resolution to quit drinking.
I think he was so passionate about that resolution. He took the same resolution every year for more
than 20 years. He had tried to quit many times using every tool and technique he heard about.
He tried all the things from not drinking alcohol to not get tempted. But as long as he was
trying to QUIT, he couldn't break the grip. Finally, he changed the approach. Instead, of trying to QUIT
the habit of drinking, he developed a dream to become a non-drinker. He fell in love with the idea of
breathing clean air instead of smoky air. He wanted his body and clothes to smell nice instead of
alcohol. He decided to start acting and thinking like a non-drinker, and when the thinking took-hold he
simply quit drinking. Get support from your friend (or) spouse How do you sustain your newly formed
habits? Get help from your spouse and all your friends. Ask them to "remind" you. They'll do it very
sincerely.
Modern day Relationship Problems
A social survey has shown that sixty five percent of adults use social network sites. Facebook
has 870 million users and 60 percent list themselves as being in a relationship. Thirty seven percent
list themselves as single, 31 percent married, 24 percent “in a relationship,” 5 percent engaged and
3 percent claim “it’s complicated.”
Many people say that social networking has changed dating for the worse. Social networking
causes people in relationships to over-analyze their partner’s online activity. Couples get into quarrels
over everything; from one party reconnecting with an ex, to one not mentioning the relationship at all.
As to the positive effect of social networking, married couples who met online had a courtship period
of 18.5 months, while couples who met offline had this period for 42 months. While many have
credited social networking for finding new relationships, others have forever cursed it for changing
dating for the worse. A while back, breaking up with someone via the phone, or email, was considered
brutal. But, now, changing one’s relationship status on the social network has become a common way
to end a relationship. In a survey of Facebook users, 25 percent of respondents found news about
changes in relationships by seeing it on social networking first.
