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Real English Conversations: Perfectionism and
procrastination 3
Introduction
Hi! Lori here, welcoming you to another episode of Real English Conversations from betteratenglish.com. In today's conversation, my friend Yvette returns to help me finish our earlier conversation about perfectionism and procrastination. This time we focus on the strategies we've found helpful in our own battles with this debilitating problem. As always, you can find the vocabulary notes and full transcript of this podcast on our website, www.betteratenglish.com. OK, here we go!
Conversation Transcript
Lori: Actually, there was one thing that I think in our last conversation about perfectionism and procrastination that we didn't really cover ... Yvette: OK Lori: ...and that's what you do to get out of the procrastination habit once you've identified that you have a problem with it. Like if you have any methods that you've used to help you over the fear of starting or working on whatever it is you're supposed to be working on. Yvette: [Laughs] You're asking me? Lori: Yeah, yeah we didn't talk about that. Yvette: How you actually get out of it? Wow... Lori: If there's anything you do... Yvette: If you find out, let me know. I mean, that's kind of tricky. Wow, that's something to think about. Well, usually I start with a plan. You break it down and smaller bits...so... the way that I can do it sometimes is to just say, "There is...I need to do a task and let me just first open the file folder." That's my first step. Once I've got that opened up and I've got the file maybe even opened in my browser -- whatever I needed to be in -- then I can start working on it. But it really is just kicking my butt ...giving myself a good kick and going, "Come on, you can do it today." But I tend to just find 15 other things to do first, which is clear my desk...oh yeah, I need lunch...oh, I need to do to the -- let me do the groceries right now instead of later, so I don't get interrupted by that. Um, so I tried to get rid of things, but I don't know, I try to plan it better, but that usually doesn't work -- for me anyway. Lori: Uh huh. Well, it sounds to me, when you mention that, for example, if it's a writing project, that you start by just opening the file.... Yvette: Yeah. Lori: ...to me that sounds like you're breaking it down to something you know you can do that really doesn't require any performance. I mean it's not difficult to just open the file and look at it, but then at least you make that first step. Yvette: Yeah, it's...I do find though, that is the hardest step, that very first one. Once I've got that one, it pretty much moves on from there. Once I've got the file and I know what I'm looking at -- and maybe part of that is that it's a bit chaotic, especially as a writer I may have 15 drafts of a similar text, and I'm not even sure what the first one or the last one was that I used and which one I was in, and I try to make notes of this in a notebook that I keep specifically for that purpose, umm, but to know what part, what I should be working on, just that, identifying that helps. And then I can open that file in my word processor and start
working, umm, and then it's okay. And then it's just a matter of not getting interrupted by anything or anybody. Lori: Yeah, that's really hard. Yvette: Because once that interruption comes, then it's very hard to go back to it. Lori: Yeah, it takes you a while to get back into the flow once you've been interrupted. Yvette: But it's also kind of overcoming a sort of fear of not being able to do it. Umm, you know, when you want to start a task and you think, "Ah, I don't know, it's a big task; I'm not sure I can do it." You know, to just get started and throw out the idea that it needs to be perfect, and that you know, any effort right now would be good. But by that time though, I've already procrastinated to a point of it almost not being possible anymore, or at least being way too late. You know what I mean? It's like you've already kind of passed five deadlines at this point. Lori: Yeah, mmm. I guess were coming round again to that idea that just getting started is often the hardest part, and by that I don't mean like actually "started at the beginning of a project," but maybe even when you're working on it, like, getting started with your work period for the day, or whatever, that's really hard. Yvette: Yeah. Lori: And I found, for me, there was actually a site on the Internet that had what they called a "procrastination hack "... Yvette: Okay! Lori: ..that I've actually used it from time to time, and, it, I find that it's been quite helpful in just getting me...when it...especially for jobs that are just a matter of like, sitting your butt in the chair for a certain amount of time and just focusing on it, you know, to get it done...umm, and what they call it is the Procrastination (10+2)x5 hack. Yvette: Okay... Lori: And basically what it is is you need to use a little timer, and you set your timer for 10 minutes, and the idea is that you're going to sit down and you're going to single-mindedly focus on your task and work on it for 10 minutes, and after that you get to take a two- minute break and just screw around and do what you want for two minutes. And after that you've got another 10- minute work period, and then followed by a two-minute break. And if you do that five times you've basically spent an hour, of which 50 minutes you've been productively working on your task. And it sounds, like, really kind of cheesy and stupid but when you're, like, so desperate, and like, can't find any way to get started and you know that "Well, if I just do that first 10 minutes, then I can spend two minutes dorking around and doing whatever I want," it just kind of makes it more concrete...that you have the specific work period... Yvette: I see.. Lori: And it's not too long, I mean, 10 minutes is only 10 minutes. And I've found -- I don't actually use it anymore -- but I have used it in the past, and I found that it was actually, kind of a way to make the task seem less daunting. You know, you're putting a limit on it, and you're giving yourself a chance to screw around, and...umm, yeah, I found it really useful. Yvette: I see. I would find 15 ways around that.
can actually get it going. You cannot...you know, there's one thing I really want to do, a movie I really want to see, or a TV show I don't want to miss, then I'm telling myself, "You can't watch it until you finish the task at hand ." Lori: Okay, yeah that's a good strategy. Yvette: So not punishment but reward.
Final Words
Thanks for listening. This concludes our conversation on procrastination and perfectionism, at least for the time being. Now if I can only find the perfect topic for the perfect podcast, we'll be back soon with another episode. Until then, you can find the archive of all our old episodes as well as the full transcripts and vocabulary lists on our website, BetterAtEnglish.com. Thanks for listening, and bye for now! [Vocabulary notes on next page] If you enjoyed this lesson from Better@English, we'd really appreciate your support. There is a lot you can do to help: ¤ Tell your friends about our website, www.betteratenglish.com ¤ Write a nice review about Better@English on iTunes ¤ Subscribe to our RSS: http://feedproxy.google.com/betteratenglish Thanks!
Vocabulary notes
cover In this context, to cover something is to deal with it or direct attention to it. tricky difficult kicking my butt In this context, to kick someone's butt (including your own) means to urge or force them to do something they don't want to do because of laziness or other lack of motivation. For example, if you think someone is being lazy, you can say that he needs a kick in the butt in order to get started. You also sometimes hear a kick in the ass, or a kick in the pants to mean the same thing. The adjective swift is often added as well, e.g., He needs a swift kick in the butt/ass/pants or he'll never finish cleaning out the garage. pretty much Pretty much is an informal way of saying almost, nearly or just about. For example, I'm pretty much finished with this podcast means the same as I'm almost / nearly / just about finished with this podcast. hack In this context, a hack is a clever solution to a problem. screw around In this context, to screw around means to waste time doing unimportant things when you should be doing something more productive. cheesy Cheesy is an informal word that has many nuances of meaning. In general, if something is cheesy it is of poor quality. dorking around Just like to screw around above, to dork around means to waste time doing frivolous things, particularly when you should be working on something more important. daunting If something is daunting, it makes you feel frightened or worried that you won't be able to achieve it. find 15 ways around To find a way around something means to find a way to avoid doing it. big deal If something is a big deal , it means it's important or special. But used as an exclamation, the way Yvette does in the conversation, it shows the opposite -- that you think the thing is NOT important. in the back of your mind If a thought is in/at the back of your mind, it means that it is always in your mind at least a little bit, even though you are not always aware of thinking about it. the task at hand The task at hand is a fixed phrase that means "the current or relevant task." It is the task that is relevant to the present moment.there
